Abortion:   I provide court reform suggestions so women don't have to abort because they can't afford the cost of pregnancy in my book The Judge's Oath(c)(TM) www.thejudgesoath.com.

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“I didn’t think I could have children.” A routine doctor visit for a stomachache changed everything. I left with life-changing news: I was pregnant. After pre-cancer surgery in my 20s, I thought motherhood was impossible. Life had other plans. This moment begins one of the most difficult journeys of my life in The Judge’s Oath.  Why does society shame single mothers more than absent fathers? I discuss this in my memoir The Judge’s Oath. 

 

Topics include abortion, a stolen baby, child support, the custody evaluator, family law, DNA testing while pregnant, and more. 

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Example Court Reform: Require DNA tests when women are p regnant - paid for by govt for poor women - and hold the dad's responsible for support during pregnancy. This is automatic. No court challenge is allowed during pregnancy. If men don't support a women during pregnancy, they can't challenge custody for two years after the baby is born but still can receive support. I had a DNA test 30 years ago when pregnant and it is SAFE.

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Nursing: Upon paying my family law attorney thousands of dollars, I

chose to go into court as a pro per regarding the visitation schedule for my 6 month year-old baby who had his first two week visit with his dad while I was still nursing and he had never been away from me.

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I went to the court to ask my family law judge, Judge Paul Brown of Santa Barbara, if I could visit my son during his dad's two week visit to nurse. I thought it was a simple request. I didn't ask that his dad receive less time with his son, only to help my baby have a better experience. ...and for this, The judge threw me into a 3 1/2-year custody battle, stripping me of my time to work on my business after writing NIH SBIR grants for four years.

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...and I was right. My baby came back after two weeks with his dad crying hysterically and calling out for me even when he was lying right next to me. To calm him down, I nursed and made eye contact, and after about a week he calmed down. His father then didn't visit his son for over 6 months while I weaned my baby so he could have a calmer experience with his dad. ...and my new business opportunity suffered substantially.​

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See my other suggestions for court reform in the area of family law by purchasing my book.